Every girl needs to be surrounded by a strong foundation of women if they are struggling with singlehood. I must admit I’ve had moments of weakness, and every girl dreads the idea of falling for what society calls a “fuck boy.” It might happen one or two times, but you will manage to get through it with the following women:
The married friend
I know it’s hard to believe the married friend has any good advice or an inkling of knowledge on how it is the roam the vast desert of this thing we call singlehood. One of my married friends has been with her husband since she was fourteen… You’re thinking, she’ll definitely be no use to us. The truth is that they can offer marriage truths, like how much sacrifice, compromise, and work it is to be permanently linked to someone. They can offer us advice for future relationships and let’s face it, as a single woman, your married friends become examples of do’s and don’ts. Your married friends will be the women who will encourage you to never settle for less than you feel you deserve.
The adventurous friend
This is the brave friend who takes life by the balls. The friend who will always tell you to enjoy life and not worry about silly things, like being single. The one who will push you to ask questions about why you’re waiting or who you’re waiting for. She will encourage you to pave your path anyways without waiting on someone else.
The brutally honest friend
Don’t we love her… she arrives early to every pity party and shows no signs of remorse when you remind her how single you are. The good thing about her is that she will always speak truth into your heart when you’re tempted to settle. She will lovingly remind you, to get your head out of your ass as she is breathing redeeming words into your soul, all at the same time.
The listener friend
EVERYONE should have one of these, be it male or female. It’s true, people like to talk about themselves. Listeners are gems, because everyone loves the occasional pity party, shoulder to cry on, and simply someone who will always lend an ear. They will listen to your thoughts, views, insecurities, rants, and issues, without saying a word; sometimes that’s all a girl needs. Is this season of life difficult for you? She will always be there.
The mentor friend
This will be the women you look up to. A truly amazing woman who exudes love, confidence, grace, and patience. The one that will make you want to be a better person or mother. She will live by example and only feed positivity and life into your thoughts and ideas. She will push us to focus on our personal growth, career, and self-confidence without waiting for that special someone. This could be a mentor at work, a lady at church, or a sorority sister from college. For me, this would be a woman of faith and child of god. It’s so hard to stick to a straight path when there are so many distractions, aka ungodly hot men. We can never get enough of them, including myself. Well our example friend will remind us that everyone’s timing is different and you are never late.
The praying friend.
This is my favorite type of friend. The friend that always believes there’s no harm in saying a little prayer to rid the thought demons. This is the friend who believes nothing is impossible, the one who dreams big dreams, and the one who will let you know that gods timing is everything, if you believe. You have to admit, whether you’re a believer or not, the thought of someone breathing words of encouragement and hope into the universe, air, God, or whatever else you believe in, brings comfort, even to those who don’t care for prayer. This friend will clear doubt from your mind, she will pray for your fear, self-esteem, self-doubt, financial success, and heartache. She will even think about your feelings during upcoming bachelorette parties, bridal showers, engagements, and weddings.